As we've discussed before, it's unfair to expect men to automatically know how to bring a woman to orgasm. Every woman's body and mental state is different so men have to learn how to help each new partner reach orgasm in her own way. Doing that requires communication and openness: two things which require trust in a relationship.
When women do not entirely trust their partners, they are less likely to open up and discuss problems in the relationship, particularly problems in the bedroom. They sometimes fear that their partners will judge them or ridicule them because of what feels good to them. This discomfort may
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Another trust-related issue is that many women hold back during sex because they are not completely comfortable with their partners or themselves. For example, if a woman thinks
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Remember that the most important sexual organ in the human body is the brain. If it's not ready for sexual pleasure, then sexual pleasure will not happen.
#3 Social Reasons
For a long time, society viewed sex as a source of male pleasure only. Women were meant to satisfy her husband's longings reluctantly and to produce offspring but they were not supposed to enjoy sex. This social idea has a long history. The Greek philosopher Aristotle believed that women
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Even though we have known the real story of where babies come from for a long time, Aristotle's view has persisted. During the Middle Ages, any expression of sexuality by women was condemned by the church as sinful. Women were taught that the natural longings they had for sexual pleasure were wrong. Even into the 19th century, women were told not to show any signs of sexual enjoyment. Her job was to lay beneath her partner and let her body be used as a tool for his pleasure.
Not until women began gaining more autonomy in society did this idea begin to change. After World War II, more women began entering the workforce and were not content to just stay at home taking orders from their husbands. They wanted something more. As women began to believe that they too deserved to lead a fulfilling life beyond just being a mother and a wife, they also began to discover their sexual appetites.
We can look back today and recognize that female sexuality was truly set free by the invention of birth control. Birth control allowed women for the first time to control their bodies. It allowed them to engage in sex for pleasure and not for reproduction. Instead of having to worry about an accidental pregnancy, women could start thinking about what felt good and what didn't.
A significant segment of the population today recognizes that women have just as much right to sexual pleasure as men do. However, some social ideas are hard to get rid of. Many women have been taught that sex does not feel good nor is
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The most unfortunate part of these ideas is that it has robbed both men and women of mutually satisfying sex for centuries. Clearly, women who were told that sexual pleasure was wrong were unlikely to enjoy being intimate with their partners. Men also lose out. After all, most men enjoy sex more with a responsive partner who is just as into sex as he is. Today, some women still feel that sex is not meant to be pleasurable and those thoughts will lead to a self-fulfilling prophecy. It can be hard for a woman to break free of the belief that society stigmatizes female sexual pleasure and that can make it more difficult for some women to have a
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